7 Tips to Get Your Head in the Game

by Ali Piazza

My boyfriend is about to attempt the Tough Mudder for the first time tomorrow. If you don’t know what the Tough Mudder is, I’ll post a link at the bottom of this post so you can check it out. Let’s just say he his going to be pushing his physical and mental capacity to the max! It is an awfully tough event. He is basically willingly going to be tortured for a few hours. And then he going to join me at my son’s 4th birthday party in the afternoon. He’s such a trooper :)

Naturally he is feeling nervous and he has the potential to beat himself up when his expectations aren’t met.

This is the gist of the little pep talk that I just gave him:

“This is the first time you are about to embark on something that is going to physically and mentally push you. You don’t know how much or how intense it is going to be, but it will hurt. So don’t have any expectations because until you experience it because you will not truly know what to expect. It’s like childbirth, you know it hurts, but you just don’t know how intense it actually is until you experience it.

Don’t expect to complete every single event, but give each one a shot. If you fall, slip or your body can’t take it anymore, accept it and move on. It does not make you a failure. This is your first time trying doing anything like this. Let this experience be your benchmark and then next year you can train to push yourself to do better.

Treat yourself like you would your students. Be demanding, but not demeaning. You would never tell your student that he’s a f***up if he falls, or that he sucks or he’s a loser. You would be encouraging and supportive. Speak to yourself the way you would speak another.”

Getting your head in the game

This is crucial for your success, because as you know, it all starts in your head.

The event that Matt (my boyfriend) is partaking in is going to be a few grueling hours. Changing your lifestyle on the other hand, is going to take your entire life. But the ideas are the same:

  1. Don’t have any expectations until you know what to expect. Setting your expectations unreallitically high can be a source of frustration when the expectation isn’t met.
  2. Give every goal you set your full effort.
  3. If you fall, slip or your body can’t take it anymore, accept it, move on and learn from it. It does not make you a failure.
  4. You are not going to be stellar the first time you do anything.
  5. Set benchmarks and strive for improvement.
  6. Practice patience. Change doesn’t come overnight Besides, you don’t want drastic change… it’s really stressful to deal with.
  7. Speak to yourself the way you would speak another. (This is essential!!) I’m assuming you wouldn’t belittle or humiliate a child or a friend. Don’t do it to yourself!!

To see how crazy the Tough Mudder is click here. But, before you click away I’d love to hear your thoughts.

What are your biggest challenges with getting your head in the right space? What strategies do you have in place when negative self-talk rears its ugly head? Share in the comments below.

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